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Competition Between Women – Does Beauty Cause Jealousy?

6Women can be so beastly to one another. Women can also be the perpetrators of hate towards other women. Women can instigate and continue a trail of destruction towards another woman.

It can be very uncomfortable to acknowledge that women can act just as aggressively as men and cause the emotional breakdown in others especially towards other women.

There are many diverse and oddly strange reasons for women behaving badly and jealousy is one of those reasons.

When the green eye of envy glares from the pulpit of internal vision in a woman, the results can range from mild verbal contact to being downright unbelievably heinous. Due to jealousy, a woman could temporarily appear insane. Some behaviours include verbal rages appearing irrational and incessant; her stiffened body taut from the venom squeezing from every pore. Jealousy is potent and can destroy both the holder and the receiver.

I covered my perspective on the Beauty Myth in another article but wanted to pay particular attention to jealousy in a woman because of beauty noting the Beauty Myth.

The Beauty Myth looks at the overall impact on women and I will be examining the psychological impact on women. To surmise the concept and explain the Beauty Myth, here is a quick précis.

The Beauty Myth is an allegorical ideology about what a woman should look like to be readily accepted in society. Men, for control over women construct this ideology. The ideology of beauty as in the Beauty Myth is not defined, therefore there are no clear guidelines or demarcation.

There are many ways in which a woman gravitates towards making herself appealing and to appease men and the resulting language, spoken or not, determines how women view themselves. Women then systematically enshrine the essence of the Beauty Myth by plundering themselves to a regime of incessant grooming including the use of surgery, cosmetics and diets. A woman does not have to be aware of the Beauty Myth to be complicit in its language. The control over women by men renders women out of control in mind and body as she strives for attainment of acceptance. Remember, what the actual concept of beauty should look like is not defined! Whilst this is happening locally for women, the woman then sees other women as potential rivals. Women compete with other women vying for the attention from men creating a war on each other that may appear comical to some but is in no doubt very debilitating for women reciprocally.

Women readily accept striving to achieve the ‘ideal’ weight and maintain this notion even at the risk of their own health. In some contexts, this ideal is nothing short of experimenting with their life. In an attempt to mask over her own lack of self-esteem, a woman may originate a furtive competition with her colleagues, peers and even friends to appear to be the better looking therefore more acceptable to men. Is the archetypal jealous woman real or fictitious? Just take a look around you.

Women eyeing up other women whilst measuring their own selves and sometimes leaving others feeling as though they are below standard. If a particular woman measures against another woman and feels she is more attractive than she perceives her ‘rival’ to be, just watch her physiology prolifically change in an instant. If she perceives this same ‘rival’ to be featuring an attribute she is keen to personally gain this same change in her physiology is evident but this time, she retreats within herself. The Omni-presence of the Beauty Myth is indeed powerful even if not understood by its participants. The concept of the Beauty Myth makes women jealous towards other women a certainty.

Throughout my working experiences in some companies, I have sometimes felt it was better to have a man as a manager than a woman. I work passionately to improve women’s lives so how can I possibly justify the previous statement? Well, if your female manager is managing her own set of negative self-perceptions and gracelessly views you as having something that she does not, well, put it this way, your working day can be hell. This information should not be taken out of context. Women are able to manage effectively managerial roles, I am speaking about the female manager who may allow her position to denigrate another female based on the idea of perceived threat. I am also admitting, however uncomfortable that women in ‘powerful’ positions can use this to feather their own pride by reducing another women’s intent. The inception of jealousy not just in thought but put into practice has some very untenable traits for the recipient, the acts done against her is nothing short of bullying. Even in an informal group of friends, there is always some kind of rivalry going on, some form of argument stemming from the lack of something, the underbelly being self-esteem. Yet, if we took a look back into the lives of much younger females (ages 4 – 8 years old), you can see a characteristic in them that might explain the neuroticism that follows later on.

Young girls are tenacious; they are determined and self-assured. They can appear bossy and knows how to get their wishes completed. They can manipulate others for their gains without blinking. The young female knows who she is and will fight for control in her circle. (This description is architypically of young females before society teaches them that their voices are not to be heard, another discussion!) Many times, the young female who views herself as mentally and emotionally strong will seek friends who appear to her to be the opposite of her traits. This way, she will continue to reign. When she does befriend another young female who then goes on to outwardly presenting with the same strong traits, they may remain friends but will experience bouts of rivalry towards each other. However, why they would remain as friends needs further explaining. The need to reign is secondary in spiritual terms to the more important aspect of having, nurturing and maintaining friends. This means that whilst the need to reign is strong, this is borne from the pressures put on them from their outside world. The need for friends is borne from their inner world (subconscious) and is much stronger than the need to reign. Young females, growing females and grown females will find a comfortable place with each other that accommodates their rivalry as long as they are friends. So does this mean that the Beauty Myth perpetuates the traits already found in females and uses it against them? In my opinion, most definitely a YES.

The competition between women to beautify self to surpass their ‘rival’ is not done explicitly. There are no words that are used that determine such acts of rivalry; the competition is clandestine. There are times when a female will depict her sense of being at war when she negatively calls on the ‘flaw’ of her rival, teasing her about her perceived ‘afflictions.’ Or when a female has been perceived to have ‘achieved’ the mythological beauty, the backlash from her peers is all too evident. The sniping, the backbiting or even the silent treatments towards to the poor female are tools that are used to demonstrate the discomfort women feel towards their ‘rival’ but borne from their own lack of a positive self identity. The need to reign (starting in early age) is ever-present but made more complex when they become older and now also vying for acceptance from men.

Young girls in the playground demonstrably sending some other poor girl ‘out to Coventry’ merely for having a super pair of shiny shoes that the reigning girl does not. The teenage female who turns on her friend because that boy she likes is not reciprocal with her attention-seeking activities. The new woman at work who makes the standardised corporate uniform look incredibly perceptively sexy even without trying. Supermodels are dicing with their health in an attempt to be the thinnest therefore prettiest amongst her peers. She has learnt that this ensures continuous work for her. Media depict background scenes of the clichéd females behaving beastly towards each other in the same attempt to reign and be accepted. Movie celebrities all seeking the reduced weight as the camera ‘puts on pounds’ and media shouts out any imperfections on a woman in a public way. Not all publicity is good publicity! Feuds are started by women with other women just because of perceptions based on looks. Especially worsened if the female celebrity is newsworthy and over-exposed. So all women are somehow affected by beauty and can become, coupled with a typically feminine trait, extend into jealousy. The levels to which jealously can extend to, is dependent upon what the attacking female feels she has to gain to extinguish her rival or equally how she much she has to lose.

Here are a few explanations of jealousy:

Fearful or wary of being supplanted; apprehensive of losing affection or position; resentment or bitter in rivalry; having to do with or arising from feelings of envy, apprehension or bitterness; vigilant in guarding something; intolerant of disloyalty or infidelity, autocratic.

The need to feel beautiful therefore accepted by self and others is inextricably linked to having better self-esteem. This increases the competition in and for women. The ‘rewards’ are both self-serving to women and for men. However, with the Omni-presence of the Beauty Myth makes jealously a sure fire win for men, whoever wins the competition, they cannot lose. Until women build their self-esteem on feelings on individualism, compassion for other women and acceptance of other women and their equally beautiful features, the war with jealousy will continue. The Beauty Myth continues to reign over the female who thinks she reigns. Until women understand that they are men’s half-witted sense of delusions and will never aspire to true equality, they remain incarcerated spiritually. The creation of ‘the woman’ needs to happen and how this is done is by understanding who they are and remove self from men’s expectation. Women then need to build up spiritually by becoming aware of their inner resources to begin the trade off with men for equality because at the moment, men do not have to trade with women on equal grounds.

My name is Marcea Hibbert-Roye, qualified Social Worker and Life Coach. I work as a Strategic Lead Developer for Women. My specialism is developing emotional awareness in females as I am passionate about improving women’s lives. I have devised a 6 Step Program that promotes good emotional health by accessing information held in the subconscious mind to the conscious mind. The result is having more control over thoughts, feelings and behaviour.

We have a range of cards that can be used to initiate and stimulate conversations for females especially supporting them through challenging experiences. There are cards that also reminds the female that she is worth it!

Help to improve your life by better understanding you and why life is experienced in the way this it is. It is only when you have the tools for change, will change happen.

Beauty Ideas for Women

5woman wants to look beautiful all her life and a beautiful you will come with boosted confidence and a high self-esteem. It is important to know the best ways to take care of your skin, hair, eyes and nails in order to remain beautiful. Among the beauty tips for women is a lifestyle change that involves a healthy diet and healthy habits. The skin responds to what we eat and a healthy looking skin indicates a healthy diet. Eating a balanced diet is necessary and the skin will flourish in diets that are high on fruits and vegetables. These help in replenishing the skin to give it a healthy glow. Taking up to eight glasses of water daily is another beauty tip that will ensure that your skin is well cleansed.

To keep that skin glowing, it is advisable to embark on the three-phase treatment for the face that includes cleansing, toning and moisturizing. The first thing you do is to wash your face with the appropriate face wash, which is followed by cleansing. Toning comes third followed with moisturizing which ensures that your face does not dry up. Using a sunscreen is highly recommended at all times since the skin is very sensitive to weather changes. Overexposure to sun is a known cause for skin cancers and it is therefore important to ensure that you wear your sunscreen in all weather. The lips are a prominent feature on the face and you do not want to walk around with dry chipped lips. It is therefore best to apply lip balm, Vaseline or a petroleum jelly to ensure that they are well moisturized through the day. Hair defines a woman and the healthier it looks the better.

Among the beauty tips for women is trimming your hair often to rid it of split ends. It is also advisable to keep it healthy using henna packs, natural proteins or amla-reetha-shikakai packs. Hair must be kept moisturized and oils such as almond, castor, and olive are highly recommended. To ensure that your scalp stays clean and dandruff free, it is important to shampoo your hair at least twice a week. Conditioning it is vital, as it will ensure that it is soft and manageable. Styling your hair appropriately makes up the beauty tips for women and it is important to style it according to your face shape. Another beauty tip for women is indulging in a body massage weekly to ensure that your body stays firm and hydrated.

To remove the unwanted hair, it is ideal to opt for waxing for the legs and hands. When buying cosmetics, it is important to test them to ensure that they do not end up harming your skin. This is done through a patch test to ensure that it does not react with your skin or cause allergic conditions. Beauty tips for women on cosmetics insist that you should stick to one brand that works for your skin since experimentation with many others may make your skin sensitive. Another important beauty tip is to ensure that you remove your entire make up before retiring to bed. This ensures that you do not take debris to bed, which may cause rashes, acne, and excessive oil secretions.

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Different Advice on Marriage Counseling Sometimes, there are problems that are being encountered by the couple and with this, it can cause break up in relationships but of course if they really loved each other, they will make ways on how they can be able to retain their relationship. This is why marriage counseling has become evident now a day so that the counselor can give advice to both the couple and they can save their marriage as well despite of the problems. It is important also that you seek advice and help from other people like from your family, friends and relatives so that you would know what to do and they can also help you out to solve your issues between you and your partner. In order for you to solve your problems with your couple, there must be a constant and clear communication between the two of you so that you will not have a hard time determining and solving the problems that are hampering your relationship. It is a good thing that each of you in the relationship must make their first move and take the initiative to change your actions or behavior so that you can both apologize to one another and you can also resolve the issues or problems that you currently have. It is important to seek advices from other people but it is also important for you to perform or to do these advices so that you can also make the first move in your relationship.
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The best thing to lessen your problems or quarrels is you should both spend time together amidst your busy work in the office because this will help you both bridge the gap that you are currently experiencing and this will not be good for both of you. AS a human being, all of us are not perfect that is why in a relationship and during marriage, you must learn to accept the flaws or imperfections of each other because you are two different persons and you must also deal with that.
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It is important for you to think of strategies that are suitable for you and your couple so that you will not break up and save your marriage as well and this is very important so that both of you can live peacefully and happily. The next important thing to do is to seek advice from the marriage counselor so that as a couple you can also follow advice from them and you can both have a food relationship with one another as well.

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The Benefits of Finding a Good Dentist In the modern world of today, people are certainly extremely busy, with so many duties and responsibilities to take care of, and not enough time in each day with which to cope with all of them. Because of this, these people might forget to take care of themselves, to make sure that they are healthy and that they take every step to ensure their well-being. A good example is in the case of oral health – if you are a very busy person, you might forget just how important it is that your oral health is good, that you take necessary steps to ensure that you don’t suffer from any problems in this aspect of your body. A person who cares about his or her health, then, should never forget the importance of finding and paying regular visits to a good dentist. Finding a good dentist, then, will assure you that in the long run, the advantages and benefits that are sure to come your way will not only be numerous, but will also be wonderful and very satisfying to you. Finding a good dentist and visiting this professional on a regular basis is certainly advantageous to you in so many ways, one of which is the fact that when you accomplish this, you can be sure that in the long run, you will be able to avoid serious and debilitating oral problems. If one knows about certain health issues and diseases, he or she might know that they often do not show any symptoms in their first stages, but in the future, they can grow steadily until the appear as something huge and difficult to treat. The great thing about visiting a dentist is that this professional is trained to spot problems even in their first stages, meaning that people can receive treatment for them right away, avoiding serious consequences in the future. When one finds a good dentist in his or her area, one can also benefit wonderfully by having the chance to have a mouth full of beautiful and attractive teeth. Teeth might be beautiful when people are born, but because of accidents, bad eating habits, food and drink which stain the teeth, and so on, these teeth might deteriorate and become discolored, broken, chipped and uneven. The good news is that experienced dentists know wonderful procedures which have the ability to give people the white, sparkling, attractive and even teeth that they have always dreamed of.
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One who is able to find a good dentist in his or her area, then, will be able to enjoy so many rewards in the future by regularly paying visits to this professional.The Art of Mastering Health

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All About Orthodontists Most of us only pay a visit to an orthodontist in an effort to get a brace. But aside from being a specialist in teeth braces, what exact is in the field of study that the orthodontist has? The truth is, orthodontics is also known as orthodontia, which is actually the first ever created specialization in dentistry field that deals with diagnosis and treatment of jaws and teeth that are positioned improperly. For those who have graduated from a dentistry school and wishes to pursue orthodontics, they have to pursue MDS or Master of Dental Surgery in Orthodontics and at the same time, 3 year master’s degree course. But what other dental issues that such dental professional can deal with? Read on to learn more about these things. Number 1. Overbite – it is ideal to perform a quick Google search to have a better understanding of this matter. Basically, overbite is the condition where lower teeth are overlapped by the upper. As a matter of fact, overbites are quite common than underbites. Causes of overbites can be plentiful like habits during early years of life such as thumb sucking or excessive bottle feeding, hereditary and so forth. These childhood habits lead to overdeveloped upper jaw or perhaps, an underdeveloped lower jaw.
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While clear aligners like invisalign aligners or braces are being used for treating overbites, some cases might still require a surgery. Tooth extraction is also performed in an effort to aid with the movement of other teeth in position.
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Number 2. Underbite – as you might have guessed, in contrary to overbite, underbite is a type of condition in which upper teeth are overlapped by the lower. Believe it or not, hereditary is the major cause of underbite conditions. You having an underbite only increases the odds of your child to suffer from one as well. The remaining causes are also the same for overbites such as prolonged use of pacifier, bottle feeding, thumb sucking and several other infancy and early childhood habits. Again, clear aligners or braces are being used in an effort to correct underbites. Number 3. Spacing – this simply means having gaps between teeth. The orthodontist is going to evaluate the condition and prescribe the right treatment. Again, clear dental aligners or braces are being used. For people who do not want to opt for a metal brace due to appearance reasons and couldn’t pay for invisalign, it will be a good idea to opt for a clear brace. The benefit of undergoing orthodontic treatment isn’t just to provide a more aesthetic and pleasing appearance in teeth but also, to prevent gum disease or periodontal disease.